Sitting on a park bench in Lima, Perú, drinking some beers while waiting for a night bus to leave, we decided to brainstorm and write out the goals we have for our wedding. We hope these will help us remember what’s important despite how easy it is to get swept away in the little details and nonsense. This way, if we’re struggling with a decision down the line we can come back to the goals and use them to help us make the right decision. That’s the idea, at least. Here they are, in no particular order.
1. Pay for our wedding ourselves and not go over $2500.
2. Agree on decisions together so that our wedding truly reflects our personalities.
3. Make our wedding more like a fun reunion than a showy formal event.
4. Be selective about our creative projects so that we don’t get obsessed with or overwhelmed by the details.
5. Make our wedding reflect our values: vegetarian, eco-friendly, etc.
6. Have a meaningful and sincere ceremony.
7. Handle any conflicts with courtesy and maturity while still standing up for ourselves on what really matters.
8. Have quality time with everyone at our wedding and involve our guests as much as possible.
What do you think? Can we accomplish all of these? Did anyone else sit down and write goals for their wedding before really beginning the planning?